Queer liberties

Recent Posts Glossary A listing of asexuality-related words. Not participating in sexual activity often specifically partnered sexual activity by choice. Ace also includes gray-asexual and demisexual people. A pride flag consisting of equally sized horizontal stripes, from top to bottom: Black, gray, white, and purple. Someone who experiences romantic attraction; not aromantic. Someone who experiences sexual attraction; not asexual. General dislike of sexuality or sexual activity, including instances where other people are involved. Antisexual views should not be confused with asexuality.


Occasionally, there are individuals who assume the duo are married or dating , or try to set them up as a couple. However, the duo is perfectly happy just being friends and the lack of sexual attraction is mutual. The reasons behind this vary.

But don’t stress too much about labeling it ‘right’ because there is no solid line between romantic and platonic, and what distinction there is depends more on what they mean to you than any definition you’ll find in a dictionary, website or forum.

Anyone who’s known me through the years can testify that that is absolutely not true. As with many others with Asperger’s, I feel emotion, and feel them intensely, sometimes more so than a person who did not have Asperger’s. When it boils down to it, I believe the root of this assumption goes back to the difficulties that many with Asperger’s have with communication.

As Canadian writer A. Speaking for myself, from my own experience, I often feel way too much though this is usually not very evident a lot of the time. Granted also that a lot of the way too much that I do feel is usually kept as being a part of my own world inner-experience and is not often shared with others.

This is my life now (Priorities)

Newsletter Google Polyamory comes in all shapes and sizes. Then there are families. Families are for people who like their partners to all know each other and, in some cases, all be sexually involved. And how do you maybe get into one? Every poly family is a little bit different. According to a recent study , 9.

Can still be ace.

September 2, by aggiesez Cuddling: People are really touchy. That is, most people desire or require touch and affection on a regular basis — nonsexual as well as sexual. The National Institutes of Health says so. You can be, too. The catch is, we live a generally sex-negative and thus oversexualized, but not in a good way society. And a highly couple-centric one at that. That sends the unfortunately limiting message: Most of us at some point try usually subconsciously to influence the thoughts, feelings, and actions of others by refraining from touch.

Queer Thinker: Black Women Are Bitches

I like to make little illustrated books for friends as birthday presents. Mar 23, Queerplatonic relationships: Chocolate shops decked out in shiny crimson red ribbons and heart-shaped boxes of sweets, jewelry stores displaying their finest, grocery stores selling bouquets of roses and teddy bears—all anticipating the day of love and dating. I happen to have a best friend who is male. We do a lot of things together and sometimes we are mistaken for a romantic couple.

You know, there are still people who think that you and I— Diana:

Aromantic or repulsed romantic? This is going to be a long one, bear with me please. I had 3 crushes on boys in the past. I get excited when I see them and I had hand-holding urges. There was barely any sexual attraction. We even had a marriage pact if neither of us find anyone we desired within the next 10 years.

Our friendship fell apart after some time though. I started to identify as an aromantic. I felt disgusted when I saw couples. I hated the idea of relationships. Unlike most of my peers, I never craved a romantic relationship. What I wanted was a best friend instead. About this time I had a squish on a girl. This was extremely intense and sexual attraction started to develop.

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November 6, Image credit: There was a mixture of excitement and anxiety in her voice as she marched to her destination. Pretty much every person I know has grown up exposed to heterosexual love, heterosexual dating and heterosexual relationships.

The Married Life , a returning-to-town Betty says that Jughead was the one she missed the most.

Westend61 via Getty Images Aromantics may not feel romantic love but that doesn’t mean they’re cold or callous people. Some people are asexual but not aromantic, while others are aromantic but not asexual. Kotaline Jones We have a cultural obsession with rom-coms and fairy tale endings, but that doesn’t make romantic love a universal human desire or experience. Aromanticism exists on spectrum , and individual experiences vary from person to person. For example, some people might consider making out to be sexual, others might consider it romantic, and that can change depending on the circumstances.

Jenny and Milly have chosen to withhold their last names for privacy reasons. When and how did you realize you were aromantic?

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There’s a reason why this journal is entitled “Queer Thinker” If you want to read the thoughts of a black, gay law student who seems to think differently, i. Wednesday, May 30, Black Women Are Bitches So, Nikki decided to give up on the online dating after yet another white guy didn’t respond.

I saw to the supper for all of us, which made me even more unhappy and resentful.

April 1, As I think of myself as asexual, this is what I thought was strange: I in no way shape or form want to have sexual relations with her, the farthest I would probably ever go is something like kissing on the mouth, which she wouldn’t do anyway heterosexual. So why was I disappointed? I mean, I had never thought about it before for obvious reasons, and I don’t really think I would, but Sorry, this is more of me pouring out my current thoughts than a real question, but, I mean Has this happened to you?

Am I not really asexual? I am only 16, so I guess I could be wrong ? Perhaps the reason her reaction disappointed you is that the idea of these things existing in a platonic relationship desexualized them and you liked that. Reading about them in that context makes them more about companionship than sexualization, which might appeal to your asexual nature. However, your friend was completely unable to separate the activities from their sexual component, reinforcing her own sexuality.

Which, understandably, highlights a noticeable difference between you two. I have no idea, just a guess!

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The following submission is from Amy Maria Flannigan. Submit an article today via queerdeermedia. Yes, it is my orientation, and I will do my best to describe what it feels like to be alterous. So from my post on romantic orientations you know that this is the definition of alterous:

Similarly, people who do not experience romantic attraction aromantics may or may not experience sexual attraction.

Here to talk, lend support, or answer your questions to the best of our ability. The mods are Anaxan, Noel, Nash, and Tyger. This list reflects the terminology that has currently or previously been used on this blog. It is not a comprehensive list, but I hope it provides a starting place for people who may be confused while reading an ask or post. More comprehensive lists of sexuality and gender related terms can be found here. Generally used to refer to someone who is both allosexual and alloromantic, although in some contexts it may refer specifically to allosexual or alloromantic people.

Someone who experiences romantic attraction. It is possible to be alloromantic but not allosexual. Someone who experiences sexual attraction. It is possible to be allosexual but not alloromantic. The idea that generally monogamous romantic relationships should be an ultimate life goal of all people, and that these relationships have more intrinsic worth than other relationships. Closely related to compulsory sexuality.

How to Make a Platonic Relationship Work: 6 Steps (with Pictures)

I think this is a question nearly everyone asks themselves at some point in their life. It can be hard to figure out what went wrong, what was miscommunicated, what chances were missed out on. Despite its depiction in the media, keeping a true friendship going is hard work. I mean, sure, everyone also makes sure to put in qualifiers like find someone rich or famous or beautiful but in the end your soulmate is supposed to embody everything. You are conditioned to be empty and incomplete.

You are supposed to find your other half.

We’re all just bags of chemicals, when you get right down to it, and there aren’t any neat categories in your brain sorting all those chemicals into tidy little boxes based on your relationship to the person you’re looking at.

Tag List List of sexuality related terms and their definitions Note: All of these are applicable also to romantic orientations, in which the attraction is romantic and not sexual. These take the prefix of the word and the ending -romantic, i. Heterosexual straight – A person is who is attracted to people of a different gender than their own. Generally binary gender to different binary gender.

Homosexual gay – A person who is attracted to people of the same gender as their own. Generally binary gender to same binary gender. Lesbian – Women who are exclusively attracted to other women. Bisexual – A person who is attracted to two or more genders. This term usually refers to someone who is attracted to the people who are male or female, but can apply to any two or more genders. Other terms for bisexual include polysexual, non-monosexual, and ambisexual. Pansexual – A person who is attracted to all genders.

Polysexual – A person who is attracted to multiple genders. Monosexual – A sexual orientation that involves attraction to only one gender, i.

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Is it ok to like one of your children more than the other? Answer We all know that parents have their favorites where their childrenare concerned. Usually, the favored child is the most like theparent personality-wise who favors him or her, or quite simply,it may be the child who gives the least amount of trouble to theparent s. However, it is not advisable is to let your childrenknow or even suspect that you have favorites; I think someparents tend to “let-on” just a little bit when angry or frustratedat the least favored child because it’s an easy way of “punishing”that one.

You may have sub-consciously punishedyour child this way, or of course, you yourself may have felt likethe not so favored child while growing up and subsequently turnaround and repeat the process with one of your own.

Which is something like:

This is one I’ve been itching to read ever since the first one came out the first edition even! The Lifeline Signal follows a different set of characters than book one, but don’t worry – they’re very connected to your favorites from Chameleon Moon and the plot of Parole. This is just another side of the story, a look at what’s going on outside of Parole’s bubble and fire. It’s not as ideal as those trapped within Parole might suspect and it’s fascinating to see how the world outside has changed just as much as the world within Parole itself.

A city doesn’t just drop off the map without consequences after all. Two of the main trio are new to the Chameleon Moon universe, but readers of the short stories will recognize Annie from The Library Ghost. She’s back and is one of the primary focuses of the novel, so those who enjoyed her there will absolutely love her here. It will, however, give you a lot more insight into the plot, so I would highly suggest them.

This book features just as much diversity as the first. All three main characters are POC and a good deal of side characters are as well. The primary character, Shiloh, using xie pronouns, which is something I’ve never seen done in a book before, self pubbed or otherwise, and both xir and Annie have several physical disabilities between them EDS for Annie and a chiari malformation for Shiloh that are never glossed over or swept under the rug.

Annie is autistic and it shows, she deals with sensory overload and has difficulty communicating, and this is never treated as a bad thing or something that should be ‘fixed’ about her.

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